I got my review on Tuesday, and this is the first year (in 23) that I wasn't completely perfect.
Of course, I'm not perfect, but I was still upset. I realize they are trying to change their review structure and to work on constant improvement and all that, and logically, its what I really need and even wanted in a review: areas where I can meet my bosses' needs, etc., areas where I can grow, feedback from my boss on areas he considers key, etc.
But emotionally, I was crushed and felt like a failure. It doesn't help that the Ex had contacted his sister by email and told her he had gotten married and had a job.
I contacted the lawyer and she told me that we didn't make provision for him remarrying in the divorce agreement so I still owe him 32K.
Of course, he could be lying too. He does that all the time.
On the upside, I was able to pay my church my yearly tithe in advance, and I've saved $11K toward paying the hubby, so I only owe him $21K, which may be an easier chunk to finance if he demands money right now.
And I have a cold. What a life. I feel like I'm working hard to make him money to live it up and waste, while I'm going without things until I have saved for them.
Arrrrg.
Yearly Work Review
January 28th, 2010 at 02:22 pm
January 28th, 2010 at 02:29 pm 1264688960
((Hugs)) That is rough, a double whammy. I hope you feel better. Great job about being able to pay your tithe! That has to be a good feeling!
January 28th, 2010 at 04:15 pm 1264695304
January 28th, 2010 at 07:29 pm 1264706949
I can have a social life without spending a lot of money.
January 28th, 2010 at 08:15 pm 1264709733
Does your employer allow you to respond to the evaluation in writing? If so, it might make you feel better to write about your strengths and all the ways you are an exceptional, contributing employee.
You are a kind and generous woman. Remember, karma...