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My Lawyer Called

May 6th, 2009 at 03:50 pm

My lawyer called and my husband accepted the offer and I'm going to go to her office friday to sign my divorce papers.

And because I'm giving him another 10% of the house equity, I will not have to pay him alimony. I'm so relieved and grateful to God.

And you know what? I cried off and on after I realized it was really going to happen. Not because I don't want the divorce, because - hey - I don't want to die, but because it meant the death of a marriage, and a part of my life was gone.

And now I look at all the things I can do. Simple things seem so wonderful - like being able to get up in the middle of the night and get on my computer without being yelled at. Like planting flowers. I've been going to Home Depot on my payday weekend and buying $2 worth of flowers. Marigolds wink at me every time I come home. My husband never let me have a garden. It feels so freeing.

My goals right now are - start small, but try to garden a little, fix the swamp cooler so it doesn't drip all over (and put the garden near it for the condensate), write a fantasy story and post on the internet, and take another belly dancing class!

10 Responses to “My Lawyer Called”

  1. Maismom Says:

    Yay, for you, and congratulations on your new life. I'm sure it will only get better because you know what makes you happy. Good luck on your garden. I'm sure it will be beautiful.

  2. Amber Says:

    Divorce is always hard know matter what the circumstances are, but just put one foot forward at a time and enjoy your new beginnings Smile

  3. miclason Says:

    Divorces are never easy... itīs ok to mourn for the loss of all things that could have and should have been... itīs only natural...But, I see you are already starting to embrace the things that can be and are...good for you!

    Enjoy your garden! (and your new life!)

  4. Debtnomore Says:

    It sounds like you have some wonderful, fun plans. I know we've been planting flowers like crazy. I can't seem to pass them up either.

  5. Tic Toc Says:

    Good for you.
    I cried a lot after my divorce, but I met DH six years later and we got married after knowing each other only 3 months.
    He is kooky and funny and we have a beautiful little girl.

  6. tynana Says:

    Bless you. You have accomplished something that a lot of people are unable to do. Enjoy your new found freedom. I'm sure you deserve it. You can do anything, anytime you want or even nothing at all.

  7. creditcardfree Says:

    It all sounds normal! Grieving, yet excited about the future and moving forward. Best wishes.

  8. Analise Says:

    I think grieving for the loss of your marriage is very normal and understandable... it is part of the closure. But just think of all the possibilities and experiences ahead of you... the best years are yet to some. Take care of yourself and enjoy "smelling the roses" in your new garden.

  9. HouseHopeful Says:

    I'm glad you have such a positive attitude! Isn't it amazing how its the littlist things that make us happy? I love your goals...especially the belly dancing!

  10. miz pat Says:

    You guys are so encouraging. Thank you for all your kindness and reassurance.

    What a great group of people!


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